Destine Tre'von Belton

My Destine, Was Destined by God to be here…
Destine was my purpose. Because of all my kids and all he did to try and prove he could do things on his own, he needed my help the most. By God he was doing his things to prove to the world he was independent and could stand on his own. Through his ups and his downs he was standing strong. Words cannot express the magnitude in which this loss brings to, not only me as his mother, but to my family. Words cannot begin to describe the person he was and was trying to be. Because what little I put to paper, there was still so much more of him. Of him to love, to excel, to be. And the thought that I will never get to hold him, hear his voice, fuss at him, guide him, love on him, have blessed moments with him devastates me inside.
He was my one and only son of four biological children. My Heart! My Love! My Reason! My love for him exceeds beyond words, understanding, and imaginations. I cannot imagine my life without him in this moment. Because I imagined his life to be full, well lived. I saw him living his life as a grown man full of potential, with a wife and kids, in his own home – doing his own things. I imagined sharing lunches, and dinners, holidays, birthdays, just anytime moments with him over the years. I think back on the conversations we shared, the moments he let me into his world, the big hugs he gave, his thoughtfulness, his trying, his childhood, his teen years, the man his was and was growing to be. I can’t imagine that from this moment on I am going to miss the laughs we’d share, his smile, his many facial expressions, his ups, his downs, his happy moments, his proud moments, his disappointing moments, his first child, his first wife, his first of the next of what could have been. I am beyond hurt and devastated because my purpose is no more.
He leaves behind biological siblings as well as siblings of a blended family. But, the loss of him breaks a bloodline; there is no other of his bloodline after him. The loss of him breaks the goal of the family he was attempting to create.
After years of struggling to find what he wanted to do with his life. He finally reached a point to which he finally figured out the direction for his life. He met a girl he trusted he could share his life with. He was working on bettering his circumstances so that he could settle down with his special someone and raise a family. He was going to school full time in addition to working a full time job. He was doing well in school, making the Dean’s list, maintaining a 3.73 GPA. He had just passed a milestone in classes after passing a major test. When this accident happened he was on his way to class of his first week of paid training towards his licensure.
He was trying so hard, being intentional, to move with purpose, to be productive, to find his purpose in life. He was determined to make the best of his life moving forward. The loss of him breaks the potential for the greatness he was attempting to achieve.
Destine, was one of the most thoughtful, kindest, considerate, compassionate, loving persons to know. To be of help was his greatest strength and his greatest weakness. He carried a heavy heart for the needs of others. He would help a stranger in his/her most desperate trying times even if he too was struggling. From the pregnant stranger he gave his last $2 to so she could ride the bus while he walked, to the ones he loved the most so he sacrificed himself attempting to ease their inconvenience or suffering. He did his best to look out for others, sometimes when he didn’t want to but knew he needed to. Everyone who I have come across who had the pleasure of meeting/knowing him talk about how much he helped them or when they witnessed how he helped or was courteous to others in some way or another. He was intentional in his efforts to be of help, to be kind, to be generous, to be respectful.
He looked forward to the peace of life after the struggle. He found happiness in love. He found balance after the uncertainty of his future. Being an over-thinker he worried over the possibilities of what the future held. However, he stayed dedicated to the betterment of himself.
In spite of the odds against him, he stayed a trying man with great possibilities. The sadness of it all is his potential to achieve that which he was setting his mind to do, and actually achieving his goals.
This loss hurts so much so I find myself struggling to breathe. I am going to more than miss all that my son was and hoped to be. I am going to grieve him as long as I live. This loss is unimaginable. How do I move forward without My Heart?!
This accident didn’t just take away potential –It took away a bloodline, a son, a nephew, a brother of many, a best friend, a boyfriend, a lifeline, a greatly appreciated being, a future, a great man – a man worth knowing and keeping around. I am going to achingly miss him for the rest of my life.

Destine through the years

Destine

Destine was a blessing to our lives. My son and Destine grew up together. He practically was my son as well. Anytime he came around he had a smile on his face that lit up our hearts. He was loyal and vey polite and kind. He will forever be in our hearts and memories. We are praying for peace and comfort to his family.

I miss you yall so much