Donna Drummond

Praying for peace and comfort as you mourn the loss of your precious mom. Love you

With loving memories of Aunt “Donna Drummond”.

I wanted to take the time to say first that my heart goes out to every blood related family member of Donna. I pray that you are able to find understanding and comfort from the Trinity during this time. I dont what to share a specific memory per see but more so I want to say to Donna, and to say in her name, as well as to anyone who reads this something very important that I feel is worthy of mentioning as well as seeing. I want to start off by saying women are united in the fact that if they are Mother’s then they know what true love is. They should also know very well what it’s like to give so much of oneself as well as to give of their lives and their time. Their patience and energy, the attention, their faith in goodness, etc. To do this because it is in the Mothers nature to do so and not because their daughter or son returns the favor, they don’t do it because they have many commonalities with their children, they don’t do it even because they like them so much,any times children be be utterly obnoxious and truly challenge our faith in humanity, the future, goodness, and even the truth of motherhood, the pros the cons and make us lose track with who we are as a woman that doesn’t have a child attached to us whether physically or emotionally. Woman give a special place in their hearts to their children, and that doesn’t mean they are perfect. It doesn’t guarantee an even good parent nor a bad parent but a parent who makes mistakes. But our Mother is our Mother and what we think of her, how we treat her, validate her, our ability to step into her shoes, our desire to match her patience with our own, to give back what she gives us, to realize she doesn’t tell us everything we need to know in order or before we even form an opinion on who she truly is. Because most of us do not know our Mothers. Not really… Not who they are independent of you. That part of them that they had to themselves. And that which continued to grow and flourish or even fail at everything.. that part that you should always cherish and respect andallow her to have for herself. Because it is within that part of her is where her love for you is the most precious and will forever remain her child. The real you. The parts of you that you do not remember. The part of you that treated her unfairly, the part of you who disrespected her out of ignorance, temper tantrums, and even if you were justified and validated in your feelings .. as our mothers are able to be wrong… That never meant what you feared it to be. Never. Our Mothers are simply human and many times more often than not… It is that we forget the most. But even so, what makes her so amazing and seem super human is her willingness and desire to overlook that and express her love to you in a way, you haven’t ever been able to express to her with the perfection that she did for you. Today is the day however… To begin to do just that. Which is to begin by being honest. Release anything negative, and begin by acknowledging all of the things about Donna that did seem superhuman! And only a Mother could accomplish! I could name a few and she wasn’t even Mother! Her patience was unlike any other Mother I’ve ever known. It was nearly springing forth from a place that seemed unlimited sometimes.. and she gave so much of it as it stretched on for forever it seemed. This is hard to find with authenticity and discipline as Donna had it and as I saw it. I’m sure she learned by trial and error… But it shows she was capable and did learn from her mistakes as much as she was able to! We need to acknowledge that the woman who were born between 30s-50s are all passing… And I need to make something worthy of mentioning here. These women of these time are extremely under rated and misunderstood. I’d say that the generations born in the 60’s to now understand these women the least when compared to the children born in the 80s to parents born in the 60s. The woman born in the 60s were straight up the movement of the feminists. The women who inspired women’s lib. Many do not understand how they fucked thing up by being one sided when they observed their mother who was from a completely different era. I know you all saw unsettling things. But the women’s movement should have been done with more awareness and with more voices from your Mother’s. You cannot be a feminist if you are going to tell your own mother how she should feel about her up bringing, her marriage, her religion, her behavior, anything inrelation to her choices…. If you don’t tread lightly and try to imagine what that was like and the fact that her era and all eras afterwards are filled with the same amount of pros and cons. These women lived through more than any other woman alive. That grants her… Respect that you aren’t obligated to feel for her… As respect isn’t about understanding it… It’s about giving it by the beautiful magic that is logic and reason. The proof lies within honesty and observation and reality. To see these things accurately takes time. We aren’t born with it. Donna had an amazing way of allowing people to be who they were even if they didn’t see her for who she was… She had less ego than I think I’ve seen in anyone. And she rarely allows her feeling soft underappreciation or the fact that I’m sure many people if not all people didn’t see her for who she was. But she let it be because I also believe she was a true woman of God. She knew only God’s understanding of her mattered… And it is God who kept her going and kept her strong. Donna stands, for me, the role model of doing what’s right and commiting to ones love and duty and striving to understand love but not by controlling others with her sacrifices. Love you Donna. PS. Attached is the certificate of 5 trees that are being planted in memory of her! RIP Donna.